How to identify your child is being bullied in school
Parents face many issues while raising a child and one of them is bullying. As a parent we try really hard to keep our children safe, send them to the best school and provide them to the best of our abilities. But what if they don’t feel safe and are not being able to reach you in time for help. Therefore it increases our responsibilities even more to be alert and mindful and trace their untold difficulties, worries. Now the question arises, how to do it?
In this article we will mainly talk about school bullying and warning signs that your child is being bullied in school and as a parent what role can you play to help your child deal with it. But before doing that lets talk in brief about what is Bullying?
“Bullying involves an initial desire to hurt, this desire is expressed in action, someone is hurt, the action is directed by a more powerful person or group, it is without justification, it is typically repeated, and it is done so with evident enjoyment.” Ken Rigby (1998).
In simple words Bullying is when a person deliberately and repeatedly hurts someone else. The hurt can be physical or emotional. Bullying includes hitting, pushing, name calling, leaving people out and teasing. If anyone feels scared or hurt when they are with someone, they may be being bullied. Bullying is a form of aggression that can escalate into violence.
At times children tell their parents about being bullied in school but sometimes they don’t because of a number of reasons. Many children believe that bullying cannot be stopped. Also they don’t want to bother their parents, minimize bullying experience, or feel ashamed of telling.
If parents don’t know whether or not their child is being bullied, the following are warning signs that might indicate that their child is being bullied:
+ The child gets quiet and don’t want to interact with others
+The child comes home with a cut or bruises and avoids telling how it happened
+ The child looks scared or having nightmares;
+ The child loses or has damaged possessions;
+ The child develops very low self esteem or putting her/him down;
+ The child avoids going to school;
+ The child has no friends or party invitations;
+ The child often feels sick; or
+ The child gets very reactive and sometimes acts very aggressive.
Parents can help their children deal with bullying by:
+ Keep an eye on your child overall behaviour and ask to your child what is wrong;
+ Teach your child that, ‘we all have right to feel safe” and ask him if he feels safe;
+ Educate your child about bullying and also how to spot it;
+ Let them know that it’s ok to talk about bullying;
+ Teach them how to stand for themselves if bullying happens to them (for example teaching them to look the person in the eye and say ‘stop bullying me’);
+ Educate them not to be a bystander and laugh someone being bullied in front of them, not to join in bullying, not to give a person who is bullying lots of attention and not to leave people out of games;
+ Also don’t hesitate in telling the school about it and demanding action;
+ There is nothing wrong in seeking professional help for your child to learn/improve his/her social skills. Because once a child is bullied it increases the chances of him/her being bullied again.
+ Treatment helps the victim to deal with their distress and powerlessness, teach them how to block bullies and rebuild their social survival skills as well as help them to find/join a nice social.
+Remind your child that walking away is not a permanent solution to bullying. The problem is real and needs to be sorted in order to feel safe.
+Remember that bully doesn’t ends up in school, there is more bullying out of school once they leave, thus all children require these social survival skills.
Children who are being bullied need adults to intervene and provide support. If you need professional assistance for your child, book online session for your child on http://www.onepreciouslife.net/schedule-an-appointment-2/